There is nothing worse than a terrible counselor. Ok, yes there is a lot worse, but sitting in session with a counselor you don’t like can feel awful, even creepy. To avoid this, consider the following as you select your counselor and during your first two or three sessions:
-What kind of experience does he or she have?
- Has he or she worked with people with my issues?
- Am I comfortable in the space? Does he or she make me feel at home?
- Do I have a good feeling when I talk to him or her?
- Is he or she paying attention to me? Do I feel heard when I speak?
- Do I feel that he or she honestly and openly answers my questions and addresses my concerns about the counseling process?
Most importantly, trust your instincts. If you feel like you and your counselor are a good fit, and that you can get some important work done together, stay. If after the first few sessions you feel that you and your counselor may not be a great fit, discuss your concerns with you counselor if you feel comfortable. If you still have concerns, it may be time to move on and find someone new.
Leana Sykes is a Relationship Counselor and the owner of Leana Sykes Relationship Counseling & Mediation in Oaklyn, NJ.