Hello Everyone! Welcome to Part 2 in my series of Recovering From Infidelity. I've already written about how to apologize here, but there are a few differences and nuances to apologizing after an an affair. The basic structure is the same, but the expression of remorse after a betrayal such as infidelity may look different than any other type of apology.
Similar to other apologies, expressing remorse after an affair should include a genuine acknowledgment of what you've done wrong, an explanation of what lead you to affair (without blaming your partner), a genuine expression of remorse, and asking your partner what you can do to help your relationship recover from the affair.
Many couples seek the help of a counselor to support them as they apologize. It takes a lot of risk and requires that that the person who has been unfaithful put themselves in a vulnerable position, and that may require some additional support. If you're truly ready for this step, and couple's therapist would be happily willing to help you.
Coming Soon: Part 3: Becoming the Protector of Your Relationship
Leana Sykes is a Relationship Counselor and the owner of Leana Sykes Relationship Counseling & Mediation in Oaklyn, NJ. Both online and in-person counseling options are available.